Debate: Black Men and Interracial Dating and Images in Hip-Hop

So....in Profo's wonderful and delightful class, we talked today about Black/Latino relationships and gave both male and female positions.

My position was that we as black men arent as restricted as black women MAKE themselves. Face facts people, a black man with success (or on his way) will have more dating options. Successful Black men tend to be the crown jewel of women. For example, look @ athletes and entertainers. Women of all colors tend to desire sexual relations with them. Black women for some reason, as far as I've seen it, tend not to date outside the race as much as a black man might. It's really not out fault that women of all colors would tend to date us.

Then, two of the black young ladies express their disagreement with interracial dating, making a point that Black men tend to date outside the race when they've been "emasculated" by a black woman and/or psychological issues. Not exactly false. BUT: My point is this: Dont talk about loving everyone on some Bible/"I'm a Christian girl "stuff and then talk about disagreeing with the IR. I thought the Bible stressed love for all men? I have NO problem with interracial dating, as I do it and have done it. As far as I've seen it, a lotta the dislike Black women have for Black men interracially dating stems from them being cheated on by a first love/etc with a girl who wasnt Black in the first place. And it can be that i'm right in this case. I look @ it like this.

"If a white/Spanish/(insert race) girl has what i want in a mate, and a Black girl doesnt, why shouldnt i be denied the chance to date a female outside the race who has what i want?"

Then came up the question of misogyny in hip hop. Rap's primary consumers AND biggest complainers about misogyny are women. YET, "Lollipop" was being put on in class to show a point, and a good portion of the females in the class were going along with the song. When i raised the GOOD point of the video showing video vixens and objectifying women, the response was "The beat was nice...shut up Karsten..Lil Wayne can get away with saying 'bitch' and 'ho', but you cant, I expect more of you."

Get The Fuck Outta Here. Disrespect is disrespect. You mean to tell me that if Lil' Wayne came to you face and called you "bitch", "ho", etc, you wouldnt have a beef with it?..Jesus Christ...

Part of the reason why music is the way it is is because women are primary consumers. If EVERY woman who bought a Nelly album didnt buy it in the aftermath of the "Tip Drill" video/Spellman college, Nelly would lose a good portion of his sales. If women didnt like certain songs, they wouldnt buy CDs. They make that choice when they buy a Lil' Wayne CD over a Talib Kweli or Common CD. It's ok. That's their prefered artist. But dont get shocked when Lil' Wayne has the words "bitch" and "ho" scattred throughou his lyrics. By you buying that CD, you empower his music and his pockets. If i aint feeling Duke or his lyrics, i aint gonna buy his shit!!!!

You may not agree with my point, but at least i'm consistent. ...

Dont complain about the use of "bitch" and "ho" in rap music and then buy an album or act crazy in the club when the said artists song comes on. I remember being in 40/40 and it was an absolute madhouse when that song came on...I dont like his style, but i know a hit when i hear one. That's a hit.

Is consistency too much to require in people nowadays?

With that said, the song of the day is Eminem "The Way I Am"

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