Two Part Blog: What I Like In A Woman....

*This is the first part of a two part blog*

People often ask me what I look for in a woman. I come from a family of strong Black women and all of my female friends have quality traits about them so I have some idea of what I'd like my ideal mate to be like. The reason I say "semblance" is because I never had a dream girl and I dont believe in that. If there's anything life has taught me about human nature, it's that I shouldn't expect anything from anyone. People are human and are as prone to failure as you are so you gotta take things for what they are.

I constantly meet females who're extremely attractive and one of the common things from them I get is "You need a girl who can (insert whatever said female thinks can make me happy)". I'm like any other man. I like a fairly attractive female with a good head on her shoulders who hasnt been around the block too many times. Here's my top 5 turnons a woman can possess in no order. Disclaimer: I can do all of these things or possess these traits. I dont want things in people I cannot do myself.

• She must know how to cook. I have a terrible diet as I'm always out of the house and I come from a family of culinary "experts". Put it like this, if she can't hang with my moms or Aunt Carmen, she has her work cut out for her. I can cook and am good at picking up new recipes.
• Competitive edge but knows how/when to be my girl. I'm an entrepreneur so I'm always looking for things to advance my hustle. However, when I'm with my girl, I like to just chill and it be us. I dont want a girl who constantly brings the battles from the workplace into our personal time. I'm supportive (unless my girl wants to do porn...then I have to turn into a manager for that 20%) and I understand that hustlers attract hustlers. The past few females I have dated have had things going on for themselves and it's a major turn on for a female to know that I'm NOT trying to take the place of her workplace rival.
• Confidence. I have a lot of female friends and I'm in a business with TONS of physically attractive women. Trust me, if I wanted to get at them, I would have a long time ago. Personally, I think a lot of females are used to being around guys who try to sleep with every girl they come across, regardless of chemistry, so they sort of have a defense up against every guy they meet. My two closest friends are like sisters to me. I can sort of respect it because I'm a guy and I get over girls I date having "male friends". People are gonna do what they want, so fuck it, but the same respect I give is the same respect I demand. I cant front, females talking to their ex is a touchy subject..but I talk to former girls I talked to here and there so it is what it is. Girls have asked me if I have sex with my female friends and when I answer, they look at me like I just vomited dog food (Dont ask a question you dont want an honest answer to. Not saying I do and not saying I don't). Sheesh. However, my experience has taught me that females who dislike my female friends tend to be suspect and I can always count on my girls to let me know about girls I'm dating.
• Resilience. I hate sob stories. Hate them with the fury of 1000 Vikings coming to plunder a village. I've dealt with a lot of females with personal battles so I know how to empathize, but I draw the line with them using said experiences as a crutch or them trying to manipulate me by using their excuse as a reason to act out. I just hate when people can't make the best of their situations. Especially, coming from a family where single mothers have raised their children to be successful responsible adults. I'm a survivor by nature anyway (survived a near fatal heart condition in the womb) so.......
• Knows how to let me have my personal time. Put it like this, if I like a female I'll make effort to see her, but I like each time to be dope. It doesnt even have to be some dynamic ass date. (I'm also not keen on females inviting me out with no intention to pay. I'm usually an understanding person but it's just when I hear the words "independent",  usually it turns out to be the contrary, but I digress.) I'm used to always being out of the house doing something, so personal time is sort of rare for me. I'm always somewhere or another so when I wanna just chill and go for a walk, I hope that it's understood. I try to stay in contact to at least see how their day was so....

What do ya'll like?